Weekly Musing - Bonnie

Always Here and Infinite Worth and Beauty -

In Me, there is never any “here and there”. There is only here, I AM. I AM always here, and you are always here. There is no “there,” because that would be time-bound, and I AM not bound by time. "There" also implies separation, and all separation is a lie. We are one; I AM in you; you are in Me.

There is never anything wrong with you. “Wrong” is language from the Tree of Knowledge and of the separation lie. "Wrong" is not your identity, no matter what others may have told or shown you.

Just as you say that knowing Me is infinitely worth it and beautiful, so I say the same truth to you. You are made in My image ‘cut from My cloth’ of infinite worth and beauty. This makes you — your identity, your essence, your being, your life — all of you of infinite worth and beauty, infinitely worthy and beautiful. You are fashioned, written, formed, created, sewn and hemmed together by, in, and from Me, and I AM Infinite Worth and Beauty. In the very fibers and expression of your being are Infinite Worth and Beauty. You are inseparable from Infinite Worth and Beauty.

Co-Regulation

Co-regulation is the calming and stabilizing presence of another being. The most effective healing happens with co-regulation, which is the calming and stabilizing presence of another. God, our I AM, is the ultimate Co-Regulator living in us. Our bodies are always seeking regulation, be it through rest, food for energy, sufficient movement, and connection with others. As discussed in the workshop, our nervous systems are constantly assessing whether or not we are safe, and this is being done at a non-conscious level and includes our bodies assessing whether another person or environment are safe. Co-regulation is only co-regulation when it's good for both people. Co-regulation is not co-dependency, because co-dependency is draining on both people while co-regulation is energizing, restorative, balancing, and nourishing for both. I believe I AM intentionally created us to be wired for relationship and connection, and that I AM has an open invitation for us to co-regulate with Him.

Most studies on co-regulation are between parents and children. Here is a link to a study on co-regulation:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10453544/

For those who don't want to read the entire article, here is an excerpt from the conclusion: "Parent–child co-regulation is pervasive and expectable. There are reasons at many levels—genetic to experiential—for these two parties to coregulate...Coregulation between parent and child is a cornerstone of children’s biological, socioemotional, and cognitive well-being and adaptation throughout the balance of the life course...The field of parent-child coregulation is expanding, with recognition of its significance for child development and parenting science growing. Future research in this area, leveraging innovative measurement approaches, will undoubtedly enhance our understanding of the intricate coregulation of parents and children and its implications for child development and well-being."